Nice guys often finish last in many ways. In this powerful lecture John Bradshaw exposes the hidden and frequently destructive forces behind the facade of being the nice guy. From our earliest years we learn that we are rewarded with acceptance for being nice at the expense of being denied the expression of our true feelings, of being who we really are. Ultimately we become the actor in a role of being the nice guy or sweetheart. In this series Bradshaw explains how such behavior can destroy relationships and intimacy by never being honestly connected with others. It creates loneliness, where the victim is the nice person. In its ultimate destructive form it erupts into rage or spontaneous acts of violence, or can be internalized in the form of emotional or physical illness.Finally, Bradshaw offers practical insights into how we can learn to be kindly but firmly direct about how we feel, and find that place in our lives where we can be who we really are.