St. Stephen's Community House

“With your look, exotic, you must come from afar.”
From lands that serve the white man’s desires, that cater to your every need.

I wish I'd had this book way back when I started adolescence.

As the description says, this book includes interviews, poems and short essays.

The interviews were my favourite part of the book because a few of them were done with older generations (my parents' generation and older) and it was just fascinating to have first-hand accounts on how it all was.

The poems and essays, those hit closer to home. They were all about things I have experienced and things I deal with every day as a mixed race person. They were poignant and they raised important issues. All parents of mixed race children should read Mia-Skye Sagara's essay "My Advice To Parents" and Karen Arthurton "Advice for Parents and Caregivers" on the importance of an open dialogue about race with your children. I wish mine had read it.

Constantly thinking about your racial identity is something only the privileged can afford not to do. Racism is a ubiquitous topic (as it should be), but biracial and multiracial voices are not commonly heard. There are defining issues, like being forced to choose, to define yourself a certain way, and deny the rest, when that definition is just a small part of the whole person you are. There are particular struggles that only mixed race people face and should be known to everyone.

I recommend this book to anyone with an interest in racism, race relations and multiculturalism, but I especially recommend it to all the young biracial and mixed race people, so they may know they are not alone.… (meer)

“Talking honestly about sex is a GOOD thing ... And bro, feeling less nervous and more confident is going to help you make smarter decisions.” It’s easy to be smart with The Little Black Book for Guys at hand.
The book offers a collection of articles, poems, personal anecdotes, illustrations, and medical facts, all pertaining to relationships and sex. There’s material about being gay, and detailed but readable information on sexually transmitted infections: “Yeah, STIs are some scary shit, but in this chapter we’re gonna try to cut through the fears and the lies to give you the facts...” Other topics include Sex. Do Ya Really Need It?, The Juices: Your Guide to Dick Liquid, First Time, and Risky Business: AIDS. The authors are mindful of the brief concentration span of their teenaged male audience, and so keep each piece short and to the point.
This helpful collection was mostly created by a group of young men from a Toronto drop-in center. One piece, on quantity versus quality, offers a woman’s perspective. The contributors don’t claim to be sex experts, instead saying “What we did have was our experiences, and we’ve tried to write about them honestly.” But the text has been reviewed by experts so it’s accurate as well as teen-friendly. Naturally the quality of the contributions varies somewhat. One particularly effective piece is about the constraints of living with HIV: “I take up to 10 different pills every day ... I ALWAYS need my meds with me.”
Few teens will have the patience to read from cover to cover, and the glossary and index will come in handy for those with specific questions. There’s also a rather extensive list of resource websites, from both Canada and the US. And repetition is used effectively for emphasis: even quick skimmers can’t miss the message to “always, always, always use a condom.”
The Little Black Book for Guys is a light-hearted and down-to-earth guide to a topic of vital importance to most male teens, written in language that they can relate to. The potentially dry medical facts are presented concisely and wittily: “If fallopian tubes are like the subway for eggs, semen is like the bus for sperm. Millions of sperm can ride in just a teaspoon of the stuff.” Best of all, the advice offered never fails to emphasize the importance of communication and respect. Purchasing this book would indeed be a smart decision.

by Julie Falkner

Copyright Foreword Magazine, volume 12, no. 1… (meer)