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Linda Mintle

Auteur van Breaking free from stress

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Dr. Linda Mintle is a licensed clinical social worker. Having taught at Eastern Virginia Medical School and Regent University, Dr. Mintle is currently adjunct faculty at Wheaton College's Graduate Psychology Program. She writes a monthly column in Charisma magazine, contributes to SpiritLed Woman toon meer and New Man magazines and speaks nationally at conferences, on television and radio toon minder

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Breaking free from stress (1982) 90 exemplaren
Getting Unstuck (1999) 10 exemplaren

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Gangbare naam
Mintle, Linda
Pseudoniemen en naamsvarianten
Mintle, Linda S.
Geboortedatum
1954-10-22
Geslacht
female
Nationaliteit
USA

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The four words that fill the heart with fear: we need to talk. When you hear the phrase, what happens inside of you? Do you wonder what you have done? Do you think of someway to avoid the potential fall-out. Linda Minte is a therapist, academic and blogs regular on her BeliefNet blog, Doing Life Together. She wrote We Need to Talk to help people navigate the sometimes troubled waters of relational conflict.
The fourteen chapters of this book explore a number of issues that feed into the dynamics of conflict. These include trying to avoid it, trusting the other person, acknowledging differences, how negativity exasperates the issue, our different 'styles' in conflict, and solvable and unsolvable problems. Mintle also discusses at length the need to manage expectations and to have proper boundaries. She addresses the challenges of conflict within a blended family system, the different ways males and females approach sex, dealing with difficult people, the dynamics of anger and resentment and the power of forgiveness.

Mintle offers a great deal of sage advice and the sort of things that go on internally and interpersonally when we lock horns with another.She has written a self-help book to help people navigate through some difficult spots. While she has helpful insights for just about anyone I think you have to actually be in conflict to see the value of some of what she says. Still a helpful resource for the next time someone says we need to talk. I give this book 3.5 stars.

Notice of material connection, I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.
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Jamichuk | 1 andere bespreking | May 22, 2017 |
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The book has a lot of strategies for breaking negative patterns surrounding issues which trigger mindless and emotional eating. Many of these are well-grounded in clinical practice,the author uses citations for sources responsibly --I read the source page but have yet to verify the sources as I doubt I will use this in my work. I've seen many of the tools and strategies written here used successfully in dealing with people working through eating disorders such as anorexia and binge eating. The author often spells out ideas in ways which are easily understood and relatable for a wide audience, whether they're looking to lose a few extra pounds because of lifestyle imbalances, cutting back on junk food or comfort foods, or those who have deeper issues to work on in order to address they symptoms expressed in dis-regulated eating habits. It's also written in a style easily accessible for most readers, and if they have any training in CBT, DBT, or mindfulness, then these ideas will be familiar.

My one caveat, and it's a strong one, is that this book is heavily focused on a Christian theological perspective which isn't readily disclosed in the book notes or in the 'about the author' information. If you are not of the Christian belief system, then many, many pages of anecdotes and even a few strategies presented -- such as using forgiveness to release guilt and shame---will be worthless for you.This perspective was so integral to much of the book that I personally felt it disingenuous that this spiritual bias wasn't made obvious in the title, or at least in the liner notes. I skimmed many, and for most, I could find a way to adapt the ideas for clients using concepts which relate to personal fulfillment through creative expression, building meaning into your life, but others were so heavily laden with overt references to needing faith in in unknowable and giving yourself over to God's will, as to be utterly useless outside of the author's spiritual paradigm. I would also caution that for clients whose emotional difficulties and eating triggers lie in a past of abuse in the church, by spiritual leaders, or trauma related to evangelical pedagogues such as is seen in those who title themselves recovering evangelicals, this book could be detrimental to healing and should not be used or read without the help of a therapist-- I found several passages which would serve as triggers and cause the emotional response and correspondent eating behaviors this book seeks to address and heal.
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cckelly | 21 andere besprekingen | Dec 27, 2016 |
The words "We need to talk," usually means something is wrong, we become defensive, it means something needs to be settled. This phrase makes us uncomfortable because you have to work through conflict. We face conflict everyday. The news, in our familly, on our jobs, just being in a public place or spiritual conflict.
We all have conflict in our everyday lives, some are easily resolved, some take a little more finesse. Knowing how to handle conflict is a skill a lot of us are lacking. This book will help you to resolve conflicts.
In the chapter about Conflict, a woman is invited to church by her friend and gives her heart to God, she realizes that some things in her life has to change. No more shacking up, no more sleeping together. This is why some young people don't belong to church, because they can't keep doing things that are wrong, they don't want people to judge them, another conflict (spiritual).
The section on Power Struggle Conflicts hits home. My power struggle has been with my daughters about my grandbabies (parenting conflict).
In Can We Trust Each Other it covers secrets, unreliability, betrayal, how to build trust. It covers Criticism, I grew up where people were constantly criticizing me, contructive criticism they called it. Defensiveness, Contempt, Stonewalling. It talks about the styles of confluct, Avoider, Volatile, Validator, Hostile, Competitive and Accommodating.
This book covers so much, it will help you resolve a lot of issues or at least help to smooth things over.
Take a look around your home, your place of work or your church do you need to say WE NEED TO TALK?

I received a complimentary copy from Baker Books for my review.
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