Cheri Register

Cheri Register is the mother of two adult daughters she adopted internationally from Korea. She uses the lessons that she learned from raising them and that she gathered from other international adoptees to write “Beyond Good Intentions.” She covers ten topics, broken out by chapter, that adoptive parents should avoid: 1. Wiping away our children’s past, 2. Hovering over our “troubled” children, 3. Holding the lid on sorrow and anger, 4. Parenting on the defensive, 5. Believing race doesn’t matter, 6. Keeping our children exotic, 7. Raising our children in isolation, 8. Judging our country superior, 9. Believing adoption saves souls, 10. Appropriating our children’s heritage.

The book is a quick, should-read book for internationally adoptive parents. The book’s message is not always easy to “hear,” but for me, it’s a book that provides a reality check, and it is one I will read often as my children grow.… (meer)

If you are willing to listen to the authors message - this is a good book. You might find that you have fallen into some of the discriptions she uses -- but if you will hear her, you will learn something. Cheri has two adopted children from Korea - one of which has moved back to Korea to live as an adult. She's been there. The bottom line message I got from this book is LISTEN to those that have gone before. And that means to the adoptees most of all. Read this book - you will walk away from it having learned something - I promise.… (meer)