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Before You Know Kindness

door Chris Bohjalian

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For ten summers, the extended Seton family met at their country home in New Hampshire, but during the eleventh summer everything changed.
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1-5 van 55 worden getoond (volgende | toon alle)
Recommended by the owner of a quaint bookstore, I expected good things.
But, alas. However, as a bedtime read this book worked; I never wanted "just one more chapter".

Let the record show that I read other, finer works along side this title and it suffered greatly by comparison to stronger texts. ( )
  rebwaring | Aug 14, 2023 |
I have become a fan of Bohjalian. He can be trusted to deliver characters that are complicated, flawed, and very real. How often can someone argue both sides of an issue and do it well? Bohjalian does it masterfully. Of course, we aren't impartial in our views, because he tackles subjects that touch our own lives, no matter who we are. ( )
  mattorsara | Aug 11, 2022 |
Chris Bohjalian is one of my favorite writers. But this book has me thinking I may not read anything else by him. The reasons are personal but also general.

When I read Midwives I was impressed by the accuracy and details, and the lack of judgment. Having given birth to my younger daughter with the help of two midwives I was familiar with many of the issues surrounding them then and, to some extent, now. I was therefore impressed with the evenhanded, compassionate approach Bohjalian took to the subject.

In Before You Know Kindness, Bohjalian touches another area I know well. Unfortunately, he freely gives in to his own prejudices and does not do the research I would have expected. He clearly dug into the medical, legal, and firearms aspects of the story, but his work with animal rights activists and veganism in general was greatly limited.

The story: an important leader of an animal rights organization that goes by "FERAL" is shot accidentally by his young daughter. Spencer McCullough has antagonized many with his views, including his wife and his relatives, and he is seen as self-centered and single-minded, caring more about animals than about people. The incident occurs while the small family of Spencer, his wife Catherine, and daughter Charlotte, are staying at the New Hampshire summer home of Nan Seton, Catherine's mother. They are joined there by Catherine's brother John Seton and his family, Sara and Willow. Charlotte is 12 and Willow 10. The rifle Charlotte was holding belongs to John Seton, who has only recently taken up hunting (without telling his brother-in-law).

The shotgun blast hits Spencer in the right shoulder, effectively destroying the joint and leaving his right arm useless. There is little hope of full recovery. Initially there is doubt he will even survive. But survive he does, and begins, haltingly, taking steps to become independent again.

Spencer is not a patient man and the idea of having to rely on someone else grates on him. He isn't easy to live with - either before or after the accident. But his organization sees an opportunity in the newsworthy story of an animal rights leader shot by a hunting rifle.

The real meat of the story, and I use that word deliberately, is in the changes that take place within Spencer and his relationship with others.

Where I find fault is in the portrayal of what it is to be vegan: the choices one makes, the effects on others, as well as the portrayal of Spencer's family as essentially captive vegans.

A vegan myself, I have experienced the gamut of misunderstandings and misrepresentations of this way of life for many years. Vegans are not a cohesive, homogenized group. Like any random group of people, vegans come in all colors, shapes, sizes, and temperaments. So Spencer being hotheaded and self-righteous is not that hard to imagine. It is a bit harder to imagine that his whole FERAL team is manipulative and deceitful in the pursuit of their goals. In other words, everyone in this novel who has deliberately chosen veganism is hard to like or understand. Not so vegetarians (those who eat dairy and eggs). More than once, Spencer's choices are portrayed as extreme when really all they are is vegan.

Bohjalian takes every opportunity to malign materials and foods that vegans supposedly consume. He creates a soy margarine that Willow hates, says it has a bitter aftertaste. He attacks the shoes a vegan lawyer wears because, obviously, leather is better. He points out that FERAL's lawyer (not a vegan) carries a plastic briefcase in her meetings with FERAL but prefers a leather one for her other clients. Even pillows get a workout - heaven forbid that a pillow not made with feathers or down could possibly be comfortable. Never mind that the majority of people, not just vegans, sleep on these so-called inferior pillows.

Where Bohjalian falls down in terms of knowledge is in not actually knowing what is in these horrific inferior vegan products. Vegan margarine is notable for what it doesn't contain, not what it does. I would gladly challenge anyone to compare it to any other margarine and determine (blind test) that it tastes funny. It isn't noticeably different in any way. And shoes? Look around. Can you tell which are leather and which are not and if the nonleather ones are obviously inferior? In many cases nonleather shoes outwear leather, are easier to care for, and are just as comfortable. There is no reason to assume that a product must contain animal products in order to be a good product. The constant digs in this book are tiring and ill-informed. The cream of this crop is the bread made with soy flour. What is wrong with wheat??? Soy flour makes lousy bread, although it has other good uses. Apparently the author does not know that wheat is vegan?

The other part of this vegan-shaming is Catherine. She married Spencer. Either she pretended to be vegetarian at the time or she took it up for Spencer's sake. Given that he has always had this animal-orientation she could hardly have missed it. It makes me wonder. What I conclude is that the theme is that this fixation of Spencer's - on animals - is blocking his ability to care for his family. His daughter generally takes up the animal rights flag, yet she feels so left out because she has never visited a zoo or an aquarium. Give me a break. If this is so, then she doesn't actually care for the animals after all, or has a misguided idea of what that caring means.

Overall, then, I had difficulty comprehending why Spencer and Catherine would have married in the first place, and I had more difficulty believing that every single person in this family is totally ignorant of what it means to be vegan, that every one had that view that "if it's vegan it's horrible". News, folks: tomatoes are vegan. Bagels are usually vegan. Much of what everyone eats every day is vegan. Much of what everyone wears is vegan. Further, when one is vegan one doesn't spend necessarily spend time looking for products that mimic animal products. We just get on with life.

Because so much time is spent in this book accusing the one vegan of being extreme and ridiculing every aspect of his life, I had a hard time with it. I wanted to like the characters. I liked the two girls generally. I wanted to feel an attachment to their journey through this difficult time. I couldn't get there. Others have gotten there, probably because they are not vegans and were able to dismiss the inaccuracies easily. I know I have raged on here forever but I just couldn't get past this aspect. Just be glad I didn't get into the inaccuracies about hunting.
----------somewhat spoiler alert-----------------

If you plan to read the book perhaps you should not read this part until you've finished.

I had difficulty also with the lawsuit. FERAL wants Spencer to sue the gun manufacturer because a) the gun was faulty, causing a shell to remain in the chamber, unable to be extracted normally, or b) the design of the gun was faulty because it does not permit unloading in one step instead of two, or even c) the design is faulty because ammunition has to be designed so it can't get stuck and the fine tolerances mean it may not be. The intent of the lawsuit was to connect the horrific damage done to Spencer to the damage hunters do to deer - particularly those who survive a shot, only to die painfully days or weeks later. FERAL wants the public to know how horrible hunting is and somehow this is supposed to make that point. It always seemed weak to me. Who would bring such a suit? I can't imagine it.

Also, the case is made that it would be embarrassing to FERAL to publicize that one of its leaders was shot by a member of his own family, by a gun owned by a brother-in-law. I know no animal rights persons or groups who insist that their whole families, especially in-laws, must adhere to their points-of-view.

I also wasn't entirely sold on Spencer's transformation. I can see a change taking place after a horrific incident like this, but it was hard for me to track it here. It was almost like an epiphany. I certainly didn't see any awakenings among the family toward animals. No epiphanies in that area, naturally. As is less often the case in the media today, this book maintains the tone that vegans are rightly objects of ridicule. I am, as I said at the top, disappointed in this author, who never questioned his own beliefs. ( )
  slojudy | Sep 8, 2020 |
New England family dealing with tragedy after a father is accidentally shot by his twelve year old daughter. ( )
  NancyJak | Apr 20, 2019 |
This book ran somewhere between boring and preachy. Not my favorite by this author. ( )
  tntbeckyford | Feb 16, 2019 |
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