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Bezig met laden... It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single (editie 2014)door Sara Eckel
Informatie over het werkIt's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single door Sara Eckel
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Meld je aan bij LibraryThing om erachter te komen of je dit boek goed zult vinden. Op dit moment geen Discussie gesprekken over dit boek. I apparently live in an alternate reality than this writer (& all authors writing about the same subject) in that I haven’t experienced the vast majority of these supposed sayings to single women. I still read them looking for a glimmer of kinship, but usually I just end up feeling annoyed. Note to self: a common denominator is living in NYC (or it’s just that a lot of writers live there). It's not just for single people any more. This is actually a very helpful book for anyone who feels, or has felt, inadequate for a task at hand. Isn't that all of us? I don't like the self help genre but I do love advice columns and this could be one. The author has appeared in the New York Times "Modern Love" feature and she has some very helpful ideas to prevent you from beating yourself up for things beyond your control. Ex) You have issues/low self esteem. You are too intimidating/desperate/old/stuck/sad/picky/available/selfish. Sara Eckel also has a great worldview and is very funny. But it's not all tears and laughs - there's a ton of practical ideas too, for all of us of all ages. geen besprekingen | voeg een bespreking toe
"If you're single and searching, there's no end to other people's explanations, excuses, and criticism explaining why you haven't found a partner: "You're too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you'll be fine." "You're too desperate. If men think you need them, they'll run scared." "You're too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates." "You have low self-esteem. You can't love someone else until you've learned to love yourself." "You're too needy. You can't be happy in a relationship until you've learned to be happy on your own." Based on her popular Modern Love column, Sara Eckel's It's Not You challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that there's no one reason why you're single--you just are"-- Geen bibliotheekbeschrijvingen gevonden. |
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This book is an offshoot of an essay Eckel wrote for The New York Times in 2011 in which she got lots of positive feedback. Let’s face it, it’s comforting to know that those of us who find ourselves in the same situation are not alone.
The original essay:
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/25/fashion/sometimes-its-not-you-or-the-math-mode...
Eckel has a pretty simple answer to the question that many a single person has asked themselves: “What’s wrong with me?” Her answer: “…plenty. But that’s not the point.” She points out that we all know lots of people who managed to get hitched, despite having issues and otherwise being less than perfect. She argues that our singleness is due to chance, rather than character. She uses the rest of the book to outline 27 common reasons that we are given for our single state. A few of those include:
• “You’re too desperate.”
• “You need to be happy alone.”
• “You need to put it out to the Universe!”
• “You’re too fabulous to settle down.”
• “You suck.” (Really?!)
With each reason, she explains why the logic behind it is faulty. She shares her life wisdom in an uplifting and positive way, leaving the reader feeling more hopeful about his or her current single status.
By the way, Eckel is married, but she didn’t marry until she was 39. She’s been there, done that, and that lends credibility to her writing.
If you find yourself in this situation, I highly recommend this read. It will definitely leave you feeling more optimistic. Chances are, there is nothing horribly wrong with you! Mr./Ms. Right simply hasn’t shown up yet!
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