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The School for Good Mothers (2022)

door Jessamine Chan

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Fiction. Literature. HTML:In this New York Times bestseller and Today show Read with Jenna Book Club Pick, one lapse in judgement lands a young mother in a government reform program where custody of her child hangs in the balance, in this "surreal" (People), "remarkable" (Vogue), and "infuriatingly timely" (The New York Times Book Review) debut novel.
Frida Liu is struggling. She doesn't have a career worthy of her Chinese immigrant parents' sacrifices. She can't persuade her husband, Gust, to give up his wellness-obsessed younger mistress. Only with Harriet, their cherubic daughter, does Frida finally attain the perfection expected of her. Harriet may be all she has, but she is just enough.

Until Frida has a very bad day.

The state has its eye on mothers like Frida. The ones who check their phones, letting their children get injured on the playground; who let their children walk home alone. Because of one moment of poor judgement, a host of government officials will now determine if Frida is a candidate for a Big Brother-like institution that measures the success or failure of a mother's devotion.

Faced with the possibility of losing Harriet, Frida must prove that a bad mother can be redeemed. That she can learn to be good.

An "intense" (Oprah Daily), "captivating" (Today) page-turner that is also a transgressive novel of ideas about the perils of "perfect" upper-middle class parenting; the violence enacted upon women by both the state and, at times, one another; the systems that separate families; and the boundlessness of love, The School for Good Mothers introduces, in Frida, an everywoman for the ages. Using dark wit to explore the pains and joys of the deepest ties that bind us, Chan has written a modern literary classic.
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3.5 stars Sooo many emotions with this one. Interesting premise, good writing but could have been shorter. I felt that it dragged on a bit and became a bit repetitive. I also found some of it unrealistic but then some of it seemed almost too realistic. I felt this book definitely made you think about what is a “good mother” and the pressure that society puts on mothers (not fathers). This is even more so the case in the social media age. Some of the lessons at the school were just so out there and messed up. Yes, let’s teach how to comfort a child by physically harming them first. Let’s teach them to be better mothers by taking them away from their children for a year with little too no contact. While it seemed way out there, I am sure there are those out there who judge without any personal knowledge themselves. Definitely one to think about. ( )
  slittleson | Feb 2, 2024 |
Reading this was an excruciating experience. I completely hated it.

First, what happens to Frida is close to my worst nightmare. So I think Chan succeeds if this book is meant to horrify. It felt like that episode of Black Mirror where the guy thinks he’s testing a VR game but they’re really just torturing him. So this book succeeds in the horror genre, which is a genre I usually avoid.

But as social commentary, this book felt frustratingly absurd. The circumstances of the book are not a logical extension of current policy taken too far. The circumstances are beyond belief. A few specific gripes:

1. No one understands the first thing about child development in this book. For example, one-year-olds do not play on command. But Frida is judged because she can’t make her 18-month-old play with toys within a certain window of time. Ridiculous. Is it explained anywhere why the social worker doesn’t know how typical toddlers behave? No. We’re supposed to accept that Frida has to live up to impossible standards. The message of the book that mothers face impossible standards is received, but it’s made less effective when the standards are absurd.

2. The parenting “lessons” in the school for bad mothers are just torture. Ok, but why?! There is no world-building to explain why the government is motivated to spend a lot of money surveilling and torturing bad parents. How do the powers that be in this book benefit from gaslighting bad mothers for an entire year?! Again, this book would have been more effective as social commentary if the parenting lessons had roots in actual parenting skills. Or Chan could have built a future world with context so we the readers see what motivated the torture camp.

3. My final gripe necessitates a spoiler. Losing custody of your child is one thing. Having a restraining order keeping you from your child until they are an adult is insane. The justification for this isn’t given. So Chan again gives us a world that wants to torture bad mothers without giving context to show the reader how we got there. The added detail of punishing the maternal grandparents is also exasperating. Why?! Just to maximize the horror?

This book succeeds at scaring the reader, but does it show us how current problematic beliefs could morph into horrifying policies? Not really. It just jumps straight to the horror.

Now that I’ve aired my grievances...

Psychologically, witnessing Frida’s unraveling is effectively done. This book succeeds as a character study of a mother with depression who is unsupported and then ruthlessly punished for falling apart. I kept thinking that what Frida needed from the beginning was mom friends, a community. (I couldn’t believe every single mom she met at the playground judged her, as if self-aware imperfect parents don’t exist in the future?) Frida couldn’t find a parenting community and so she imploded from loneliness and stress. Ironically she finds that community at the torture camp when it’s too late.

Update: I just watched/read [b:Fleishman Is in Trouble|41880602|Fleishman Is in Trouble|Taffy Brodesser-Akner|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1556374309l/41880602._SY75_.jpg|70634699] and think these are weirdly similar books. ( )
  LibrarianDest | Jan 3, 2024 |
In some ways, this book reminds me of [b:Never Let Me Go|6334|Never Let Me Go|Kazuo Ishiguro|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1353048590l/6334._SY75_.jpg|1499998] by Kazuo Ishiguro in that it's a near-future sci-fi that's stealthy about the fantastic elements in order to focus on failings in our current systems. I picked this up months after becoming a mother with some friends saying, "hmmm idk about reading that right now" but honestly? It makes the satire THAT much more biting as I'm inundated with Reels on how to be a good parent/you're doing just fine as a parent/but hey maybe here's something your baby should be doing now and if not consider whether you're a Bad Mother? Or the inciting incident, where Frida has a Very Bad Day and stays a little too long at the office- wanting a moment to yourself is so incredibly relatable.

It has additional resonance for me as an American Born Chinese mother of a biracial child. When we see glimpses of Frida's ex and his new partner raising Harriet while Frida's parents aren't kept as in the loop, I'm reminded of the blindspots transracial parents can have with children of color.


At about the 75% mark, I realized there's no way for there to be a truly happy ending here without it being a substantially different story, and the ending here is bittersweet. It's immensely frustrating because you root for Frida the whole time, and she's trying her best! But because she doesn't conform to the idealized version of motherhood, she's deemed Bad.

I did wonder if [plot speculation] the dolls were going to uprise at some point, or if Frida was going to have to choose between Emanuelle and Harriet (which she sort of did, with the videos and the phone access). There's still something very weird with the dolls and I can't help but wonder if the school was also training the doll AI to learn, but we didn't get into that much because it wasn't the focal point.

I'm glad I read it, but I don't think I'll be picking this one up for a reread unless it comes up for book club. ( )
  Daumari | Dec 28, 2023 |
I had difficulty reading this book at first, and could only read 10 or so pages at a time before needing to take a break. The second half was much better than the first, until the ending which just didn’t seem to fit the characters. ( )
  danielskatz | Dec 26, 2023 |
a great premise about a mother who had left her two-year old alone for two hours and is arrested and sent to mother training camp. Unfortunately, when the camp used robotic dolls to retrain the mothers- I found the book to be repetitive and dull. ( )
  GordonPrescottWiener | Aug 24, 2023 |
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Fiction. Literature. HTML:In this New York Times bestseller and Today show Read with Jenna Book Club Pick, one lapse in judgement lands a young mother in a government reform program where custody of her child hangs in the balance, in this "surreal" (People), "remarkable" (Vogue), and "infuriatingly timely" (The New York Times Book Review) debut novel.
Frida Liu is struggling. She doesn't have a career worthy of her Chinese immigrant parents' sacrifices. She can't persuade her husband, Gust, to give up his wellness-obsessed younger mistress. Only with Harriet, their cherubic daughter, does Frida finally attain the perfection expected of her. Harriet may be all she has, but she is just enough.

Until Frida has a very bad day.

The state has its eye on mothers like Frida. The ones who check their phones, letting their children get injured on the playground; who let their children walk home alone. Because of one moment of poor judgement, a host of government officials will now determine if Frida is a candidate for a Big Brother-like institution that measures the success or failure of a mother's devotion.

Faced with the possibility of losing Harriet, Frida must prove that a bad mother can be redeemed. That she can learn to be good.

An "intense" (Oprah Daily), "captivating" (Today) page-turner that is also a transgressive novel of ideas about the perils of "perfect" upper-middle class parenting; the violence enacted upon women by both the state and, at times, one another; the systems that separate families; and the boundlessness of love, The School for Good Mothers introduces, in Frida, an everywoman for the ages. Using dark wit to explore the pains and joys of the deepest ties that bind us, Chan has written a modern literary classic.

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