Sheila Wray Gregoire

This book is one of many books written by a women for women. I bought it because my wife likes her approach better than that of men writing about marriage. This is one of her favorite authors.

Partial Contents - The 9 Thoughts
1. My Husband Is My Neighbor
2. My Husband can’t make Me Mad
3. My Husband Was Not Put on This Earth to Make Me Happy
4. I Can’t Mold My Husband into My Image
5. I’m Not in Competition with My Husband
6. I’m Called to Be a Peacemaker, Not a Peacekeeper
7. Being One Is More Important Than Being Right
8. Having Sex Is Not the Same as Making Love
9. If I’m Not Careful, We’ll Drift Apart
The Appendix has a pleasantly short list of recommended books. At 3 pages can I really call it short. Yes, because the layout gives enough room for each book to make it pleasant to read.

Chapter 1 feels like it is advocating the same sort of thing that she has been railing against all through year 2020. After that, it got better.

I liked that she has action points sprinkled throughout the chapters, and has them again at the end of each of the nine chapters.… (meer)

Some questions from Chapter 17: When You Want More
1. Have you been expressing frustration, anger, or criticism toward your wife?
2. Did you take time to ensure that your wife felt pleasure?
3. Have you failed to honor her when she experienced physical issues that made sex uncomfortable?
4. Has sex been depersonalizing?
5. Have you broken trust with your wife?
6. Do you share the load with your wife?
7. Do you practice good hygiene?
8. Do you show your wife love outside the bedroom?
9. Are you emotionally vulnerable with your wife?… (meer)

This is my wife’s favorite relationship author.

This book is different from her blog and podcast in that in this book she works to teach us new ways of relating that will be more effective, more intimate, more exciting, more of a thrilling marriage than we had before. For maximum benefit, husband and wife should read this together.

I recommend her latest book:[b:The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended|54232794|The Great Sex Rescue The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended|Sheila Wray Gregoire|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1608630296l/54232794._SY75_.jpg|84625060] which is more along the lines of what she covers in her podcast.

Contents:
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Day
Days 1-7: Embracing Sex
1. Catch the vision
2. Challenging the lies we believe about sex.
3. Embrace the skin she’s in
4. Pucker up
5. Awaken her body
6. Awaken his body
7. Accommodating libido differences
Days 8-11: Laughter (Emotional Intimacy)
8. 14 ways to play as a couple
9. Preparing for sex throughout the day
10. Show affection
11. Flirt with your spouse!
Days 12-19: Igniting Fireworks (Physical Intimacy)
12. Getting her head into the game
13. Jump in!
14. Put the “Play” in foreplay!
15. Turn foreplay up a notch
16. Help her reach the big “O”
17. The pleasure center
18. Little changes that fee amazing for her
19. Little changes that fee amazing for him
Day 20-26: True Oneness in the Bedroom (Spiritual Intimacy)
20. Experiencing spiritual oneness when you make love
21. Be mentally present when you make love
22. Try new positions
23. Decide your sexual boundaries
24. 7 ways to spice things up
25. Quickies can be fun
26. Why you’ve got to initiate
Day 27-31: Keep the momentum going
27. Make sex a priority
28. Adults need bedtime too!
29. Sex after parenting
30. Celebrate
Appendix
Notes… (meer)