Dating

Love is key.

OK, Ms. Clichépants.

>2 davidgn: Who the hell are you?

>4 madhatta21:

Oh, he's just a guy who has been on the site for years, is very helpful to other members, has catalogued literally thousands of books, and doesn't waste everyone's time with random posts.

You?

>5 lilithcat: Uh. I'm new. Are you friends with him or something? I don't know anyone here.

>6 madhatta21: And your post at the beginning of this topic is how you want to get to know people?

I suggest that you start entering a few books to give people an idea of who you are.

David's sarcastic response was to say, if love isn't part of the equation then it would negate the motive for dating at all. You didn't give us much to voice an opinion on if your intent was to start a discussion on this topic. It would be similar if your topic were "Eating" and you began with "Food is key." Try taking a stronger, debateable position you'd like to hear points for/against, to receive more thoughtful replies.

Well, should I just make a whole different group, and start over?

>6 madhatta21:

I don't know anyone here.

I would suggest that, rather than post in an ancient thread, you search Groups: https://www.librarything.com/ngroups for a topic of interest to you, and join or start a conversation there.

I noticed that you posted in numerous threads in a couple of the Challenge groups, merely saying "please talk to me", or just giving your name. Why would anyone know what to talk to you about? Also, those threads are where people list the books they've read. An intelligent comment on a book someone's mentioned is more likely to get a response. Perhaps you could start a thread about your own reading.

Okay. I really appreciate this. Thank you.

Hi Lindy, welcome to LibraryThing. You will find that many active members here are old geezers (me included) and we have plenty of time to comment and chide. But we are also helpful if you have questions about the site or want book recommendations. What is the best book you’ve read this year?

>13 madhatta21:, to start a discussion about a specific book, your best bet is an LT group devoted to the genre the book belongs in.

These message boards are not intended for back-and-forth conversation like you would encounter in Discord, etc. These are bulletin board style: you post a thought you would like opinions on, you give people time to respond, and frankly they don't actually expect you to respond back.

What you CAN do, on a site like this, is express yourself. Work on your profile, which can help with self-discovery. If you prefer to make your profile sound like a classic "personals" ad that's your choice, but I would recommend that (on this site) you'll get further with getting to know other people here if you focus on the topic of books and what you have read, or would like to read. That's the topic everyone here has in common, and it's where the mutual respect for other members begins. LT is a site that many of us value and love, and we appreciate newcomers who show a willingness to contribute to it in meaningful ways.

Your best conversations here will always start with talking about books and reading-related topics. If you can become intrigued by someone based on what they like to read (you can view their profile, try a personal message to them directly, etc.), or would invite that kind of attention from someone else, possibly you could make it work that way. It wouldn't be my first choice, in your shoes. Some of us are friendly, but mostly we are just here to meet books.

>10 lilithcat: >14 Cecrow: Excellent advice. I'd also suggest OP may want to take a look at LT's sister site, Litsy.com, which has a bit of a younger, chirpier audience.

>13 madhatta21: There are lots of books with the title "The Obsession". Which one did you read?

>13 madhatta21: Yes!

>17 2wonderY: >13 madhatta21: And sure, I'd be interested to hear. :-)

>15 davidgn: The author is Jesse Q. Sutanto.

Touchstone The Obsession by Jesse Q. Sutanto

>20 bnielsen: For future reference: you get the first by putting square brackets around the title and choosing the correct link, and you get the second by putting doubled square brackets around the author name.

ok

Now i want a pair of Clichépants.

>23 MrAndrew: what do u mean???

>24 madhatta21: Oh, he chases every fashion phenomenon - his closets are absolutely bursting. But I do love the image of him in a trite, tight pair.

>25 2wonderY: Like trite-y whities? My goodness.

Kay. That just really confused me for a sec

>27 madhatta21: He does that a lot.

Yeah. understood

>26 Marissa_Doyle: Nice!

>31 Helen0999: Please read this whole topic. It will give you good advice on how to meet people here.

Hey I’m Adam I’m new here I thought I’d say hello.

my wife says i'm not old enough to date...

carbon-14 date, that is. Give it time.

Depending on your age uranium–thorium dating is also a possibility. Especially if you've grown stalagmites. As >35 MrAndrew: says: Give it time. (For online dating: https://nationaltoday.com/what-is-today/ )

Dating now is complicated. It's hard to find "your" person, and I'm still trying

Guys I think our school is hunted.and shit it's scary I will explain if u want too.its not that scary as shit(smile cat and smile dog are scarier)but still

Please do. Hunted by what?

by evil souls,and a red cat.its something that is like the leader of them.it can attack people.like it gave me bruises.a lot actually.

ooops sorry wrong topic to talk about that stuff.i created a topic where i will talk about that.if ..whatever.i know people will make fun of me.again