Martin M. AntonyBesprekingen

It’s a great book that tells you about your own life.

“Ted feels like he needs to spend many hours a day reading books to meet his self-help goals. When his family invites him downstairs to watch baseball, he stays upstairs instead to read about how to build family relationships and avoid perfectionism.”

Just kidding.

Great book.

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What a paradox that we can be excessively conscientious.

Even the most loose person probably feels bad about it and says, ‘But I don’t want my kid to be like me; I want them to do the right thing.’ “The right thing” meaning, selling yourself to conscientiousness. Although in other situations it’s clear to everyone else except the person caught in this behavior that to be rigidly churched or Victorian is a small box without any slits for air.

In the end: if you can’t forgive anything, if you’re too proud for that, do you call that life?

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When I got the book, I was like: perfectionism is Just Bad and I want done with it. Now I see that that is itself perfectionistic. We must try to balance between wanting reasonable standards and not wanting unreasonable ones.