Enrico Gnaulati

This book tackles some of the major topics that are important in long term relationships. The author does a good job of providing different points of views on each topic, so even though you may not agree with someone's position on a tough topic, like kinky sex or acceptance of extramarital affairs, you can at least get an appreciation on where the thought comes from. There are a lot of statistics in each section, which is interesting, but sometimes becomes overwhelming and makes it difficult to recognize the important information beyind the numbers.… (meer)

ARC review: Grammatical corrections. Very queer friendly (lgbtqia+), well researched, secular, shameless, can be used by therapists and people who seek therapy, Makes a statement, needs to mention Ace representation in people who do not need sex or romance connections in their long term relationships, great mention of BDSM in safe and healthy ways.Would make a great audiobook. Personal remarks- I recently got broken up with by someone I might have loved and being friends right now is definetly a coping thing but they will always be the person I want more than anyone so reading this concurrently with "All about love" by Bell Hooks was a lot. I come from an abusive (paternal) parent that I call "sperm donor" and insecure abused mother. Divorced when I was like two did not need to be together or even have me but society makes women feel guilty about stuff like that Plus my mother was lonely. I have been super unlucky with not finding someone and not being found. I rue the day more hormones activated at 10 years old. I would rather not want romantic or sexual connections and live freely. I am very much a pessimist but nothing has shown me that I am wrong to believe there is no love out there for me. I think this book would benefit a lot of people. I enjoyed the variety and real life scenarios. As a queer black cis woman of Jamaican descent (1st gen) this is super helpful if it was something I was actually able to do but I will definetly be sending it to all my friends who do relationships.… (meer)