Steven Stosny

Caveat: it's not what you think. :)

So I picked this up because, lately, I've been sensing that the "younger generation" is struggling with feelings of betrayal. Oddly enough, the things that older adults see as transient-- organizations, government leaders, laws, etc-- the younger adults see as impermanent and the things that older adults were taught to think of as permanent, e.g. relationships, younger adults see as transient. Younger adults feel betrayed by "the establishment" but are okay, or talk like they're okay, when people and relationships dissolve.

I was hoping the book would give me some insight. It did. Sort of. But not really. Frankly, I'm not sure the how-to portion would work. I think there might be something better out there. But that is hard to know because there are so few books on betrayal period. This was the only one I found that was available to me. Someday when I have gobs of money I'll order them off of Amazon. By then, perhaps, the research will be better.

I really liked his points on trust (what it is and what it isn't). And I was pleasantly surprised that he even thought to bring up attachment theory---which, I suspect, has a deeper connection to the problem than he suspects.… (meer)