Apowerful, honest account of an activist’s experiences of being gay in a culture she loves but in which it’s hard to see a place for herself.

Growing up privileged in Amman, Jordan, Mufleh realized as a preteen that she was attracted to other girls. Scared of revealing the truth but grappling with suicidality and unable to continue to conceal her true self, she attended Smith College in Massachusetts, where she gained new insights into being Arab, Muslim, and gay. Her family’s connections to the Jordanian royal family allowed them to respond to her coming out by sending the FBI to attempt to bring her home. Knowing she could be executed for her sexuality, she sought asylum in the U.S. Mufleh’s raw descriptions of finding her place in the world are relatable: Questions of choosing between living your truth or your family’s will speak to readers of many backgrounds. Mufleh clearly loves her culture and her family; she unapologetically describes her struggles without vilifying an entire people or religion. In particular, the cultural details and Mufleh’s warm relationship with her unconditionally supportive Syrian grandmother are moving elements in a story that has some dark moments. Mufleh’s journey shows that acceptance and reconciliation are possible and that those we love can grow and learn. Her account of founding the Fugees Family, a nonprofit supporting refugee and immigrant youth, models using one’s own struggles to uplift others.

A poignant glimpse into human imperfections and the struggle to find one’s place in the world. (Memoir. 14-18)

-Kirkus Review

Gr 9 Up—Raised in 1980s Jordan, Mufleh knew she would be killed if discovered to be a lesbian. While in college in
the United States, she makes the agonizing decision to apply for asylum and give up the family she loved. This
gripping memoir beautifully portrays the palpable urgency of a young woman who had to save her own life to be true
to herself